tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3131986223774590221.post7980991004007956711..comments2023-10-28T05:29:44.713-07:00Comments on All Gawdess All The Time: Princess in a towerGawdesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09646113157120724047noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3131986223774590221.post-58564453451481920942007-11-25T11:20:00.000-08:002007-11-25T11:20:00.000-08:00Hmmm, you are so light years ahead of me in all th...Hmmm, you are so light years ahead of me in all this stuff, but what yondalla says sounds about right. Dang, it is a lot like insecure dogs isn't it... except they eat your shoes and howl, and you know if you come back, even if you are giving them heck, they are just happy you are back and giving them undivided attention. Very hard. Your eldest son sounds like a sweetie. And I would agonise just as much as you and worry and reworry endlessly.Leanne Fransonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06318369440363696129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3131986223774590221.post-2801856347558631052007-11-23T06:20:00.000-08:002007-11-23T06:20:00.000-08:00I love Yondalla too. I might also make said child...I love Yondalla too. I might also make said child come with me for the next few days on each and every little outing, particularly if it is sort of boring (even if it means it is harder for me) rather than stay at home with books and toys and such.<BR/><BR/>Of course if it were me, it would be much harder because I would be agonizing and all.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16348025510436659447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3131986223774590221.post-66860758883119159482007-11-21T18:38:00.000-08:002007-11-21T18:38:00.000-08:00Yes, I'd feel conflicted and guilty but that doesn...Yes, I'd feel conflicted and guilty but that doesn't mean there's a right or a wrong approach.<BR/><BR/>Don't tell anyone but I love Yondalla.<BR/><BR/>The only thing I'd add to what she said is to try for a consistent approach if that's possible. If she knows her actions will result in a certain discipline (or reward), follow through.<BR/><BR/>But you already know that.Grannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17283823157675990935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3131986223774590221.post-66437234402113402852007-11-21T16:10:00.000-08:002007-11-21T16:10:00.000-08:00Yes.Yes.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09235941490505824539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3131986223774590221.post-83680603963515269242007-11-21T14:19:00.000-08:002007-11-21T14:19:00.000-08:00If it were me, I would feel conflicted and guilty ...If it were me, I would feel conflicted and guilty and worried. I would worry that my worrying was making it worse. I would think that there was probably a right strategy and if I did it correctly everything would be great, but I would do the wrong thing and make it worse. And I would keep trying different things and make myself crazy.<BR/><BR/>But it is not me, it is you, so it seems so much easier.<BR/><BR/>How about rewarding her for being polite to others while you are gone? Maybe there is some Wonderful Thing that she can only have when you leave, and sometimes you get back before she has had much of a chance to have fun with the Wonderful Thing and thinks, "Darn! If Mom had just stayed away 5 more minutes!" <BR/><BR/>Maybe you can "practice" leaving for progressively longer periods of time and giving her some sort of reward for surviving the stretch?<BR/><BR/>And of course if I were the one getting that advice I would think, "Great. That might work if I had all the time in the world to 'train' her, but meanwhile I have to go to the blasted game!"Yondallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.com