Tuesday, May 8, 2007

Evangelicals start adoption push

(Click here to read the well written , original article at yahoo news)

I am not linking to the other more incindiary blurb at the parenting website where I left the following comment in response - I am vaguely embarrassed that I still read and comment (occasionally) on adoption there because when I do, I feel somewhat suckered, like I did what I am supposed to and got aggravated enough to participate and that the content and the issue at the heart of the matter is not what is most important.


Love isn't enough.
That is the first rule of adopting children with any history of trauma and for kids in foster care, that is all of them.

I would say that doing it for an ideological reason isn't enough either.

You need knowledge and understanding and to be very open about how these kids behave and WHY they behave that way.

You have to be prepared to change the way you think, the way you do things and often the things that you beleive.

Being pro children is about far more than being willing to find space in your house for a foster child.

A "loving religious home" is not better than no home at all - if that home has no understanding of the issues that arise or how to deal appropriately with them.

Trying to get people to adopt children as a way to deal with (in my opinon bizarre) concerns about "homosexuals" adopting - is a terrible reason.

Even more horrifying is what would be happening to the children who are gay that are adopted into these bigoted families.

Adoption, any kind of adoption, is about having children and parenting and being a family.
Just like choosing to have children biologically.

It is not and should not be a political action.

Children as pawns.

It makes my stomach turn.

4 comments:

Process said...

Thank you for writing this.

ipodmomma said...

it's a power thing, all about gaining the upper hand and being absorbed in their fears. and what really gets to me is that if they were really following the steps of Jesus, power and fear would be the last thing on their minds...

Maggie said...

hear hear

Clementine said...

I'm so happy to read your blog. Thank you for writing it.