Thursday, January 17, 2008

A step forward

Last night was something of a near miracle for my house.

My youngest daughter managed to get to sleep and stay asleep through the night - and this after a phonecall from Obie. He was calling from jail, he is in solitary confinement right now.
His phonecalls often have an upsetting effect on YD.
She is frustrated beyond compare that he hasn't clued into drugs and alcohol are bad things and get him into trouble.
The first time she realized that he "used", her mouth dropped open in shock. "Didn't he learn anything from what happened with our birth parents?!?".

When she woke up this morning, she told me that she was very upset and angry and wanted some "couch time" with me to help her talk about it.

Wow.

That is amazing.
And it didn't stop there.

She ended by saying that she was so glad that she could talk about this kind of thing, because she didn't think it was good for her or anyone not to be in control of their emotions.

Remember folks, this is the kid that I could barely muster up any "like" for last week.
I will hasten to repeat what I said last week, I LOVE her, just had trouble "liking" her.

2 comments:

Granny said...

If she can just remember that, it may be a huge step forward for her.

Good for her.

Leanne said...

That is quite something. Of course she'll swing back and forth. Don't we all. But this is quite something. And yes, if only we could learn "from our birthparents". Unfortunately we often learn too much too well, and cannot undo it despite our best intentions. A hard lesson to learn.